In relationships we often confide in our lover or mate. We share our past with them, no matter how ugly it is. We share our hopes and dreams with them ,no matter how far fetched it may seem. We share other people drama in hopes that it will make our problems seem lighter . And we do this all because it helps to build the companionship. It allows us the comfort of knowing that we can share any and everything without judgment. Being open in your relationship lessons the chances of having to be secretive. This leaves room for lies and deceit, as some would look at it. Is this always true?
There is nothing better than being able to express your feelings to the one you love. To be open, truthful and honest in everything you do, is said to be the practices in relationships. However, is keeping certain things secret such a bad thing? Are we not allowed a small rental unit in our brain where we store all that we want to remain hidden.? There are many reasons as to why one may not want to share something from their past. Most things that are kept hidden from loved ones are things that may cause hurt or harm and not to mention judgment. It’s not always about deceit. Everyone does not need to know everything about you, nor should they. Often times when we share too much, it come back to haunt us in ways that we least expect. The best secret a person could have is the one that is kept. If this information is on a “need to know basis“, then you must trust that your lover will not keep it from you.
Trust plays a major role in situation like this. Why? Because you have to trust and believe that your mate is not only looking out fo their best interest, but your as well. Before you feel offended that your mate may be keeping certain things secret, ask yourself ,do you trust them? Have they ever given you a reason to doubt their word? Have a little compassion about the situation and understand that if it’s something they want to share with you, they will do so in due time. Making them feel guilty about it will only cause them to no longer confide in you. Don’t tarnish their credibility with your insecurities. It’s not fair to your lover nor is it healthy for the relationship. Allow your mate to keep something for themselves even if it is a secret. In all honesty, some things are better left unsaid.
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