remember when love was simple

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Comment by Pashen on March 7, 2010 at 10:06pm

I agree that we are imperfect, but we all know that; however the bible is God's word written for all people to have the opportunity to learn about the true God and gain everlasting life (John 17:3). Since God is the creator of mankind and performed the first marriage, who would know more about relationships than our Heavenly Father? That was the reason my comment was directly from the bible and not my own opinion. I could never give better advice. If one would practice the fruitage of the spirit (Galatians 5:22,23) or better yet if both parties involved in a committed (marital) relationship, they would find it is much easier to get along with one another. In addition at 1Peter 2:21 it tells the reader that Jesus left a model for one to follow closely. True Christians (imitators of Christ) would be interested in living their lives in harmony with God, not as one would do to please oneself, but to please God. In order to do so, one must first find out what those requirements are and then live accordingly. I say all this because it goes back to love, which is what this blog is all about; which child would any parent be willing to give up for any reason. Well our Heavenly Father made the ultimate sacrifice for all mankind. Is he not at least worthy of one learning about how to serve him satisfactorily in his eyes?

Comment by Aliya Yasmeen on March 4, 2010 at 8:19pm

I will say this Love was never simple.....it is always complicated. Now as far as scripture goes the one true thing the Most High said about love and righteousness was that if ever we were wondering how to do it correctly was to look to our Father Abraham and our Mother Sarah. That was a loving and righteous relationship. But righteousness is so far off of the minds of our people that it is even hard to trust one another. And without trust and honesty there is nothing between a man and a woman. However one must first understand that no one person should love another person more than they love the Creator. Because when you love the Most High the most then you truly are loving yourself. And if you're not loving yourself the way HE intended then trying to attempt to love another will be futile.
Peace.

Comment by CORNELIUS & JAE on March 4, 2010 at 9:36am

LETs GO DEEPER!

I love GOD and all that he has created! yet sometimes you have to realize everyone does not relate to scripture to get a proper balance of what a relationship is supposed to be. you have the oprahs and dr. phil types running around the country telling people to judge their spouses and if they can't meet the conditions that they place upon them then its time to move on? yet we say out of our mouths GOD DOESN"T DO ANYTHING WRONG?

then we have people who were raised in the church that speak and live from standards that they themselves could not uphold,
(if only you could be a fly on the wall in their homes or on their jobs)
this is where alot of the confusinon comes into play. sometimes our talk is not our walk and everyone else knows this but US?
(speaking solely from my side of the street, i can't speak for all christians just me!)

now lets talk common sense.
i'm no rhodes scholar yet i can say i love and belive in GOD, JESUS, and the HOLY SPIRIT!
he has given us many examples of how to live our lives but some of us pick and choose whatever scripture/s we deem fit us for where we are in that period of our lives yet the entire book is GOD'S word so lets look at what ALL the scripture says and not just a snapshot of one or two scriptures,this is not an insult to your spreading the word Pashen. (Keep doing GOD'S WORK!)

we (my lady and i) have had this same talk/debate/agreement.
what am I trying to say?
its simple, if we won't truly believe or submit to believing in GOD'S word or his agape love,
how can we ever submit to believing in our spouses unconditional love?
how can we fight for a dying relationship?
how can we function in a relationship where we both have days of dysfunction?
we can't do these things without GOD!
he teaches us
that somedays love will suck, others will be like when you first met! (OOO la la!)
some days you will be the bad man/lady even when you're doing the right thing!
(i dislike not hate, but dislike when this happens. LOL)
he ultimately teaches us that if you put your word or heart into something (LOVE) even if your spouse/friend isn't doing their part you keep
doing yours and he (GOD, NOT US) will eventually change them or remove them from your presence.
NON OF US ARE REALLY IN CONTROL OF THE REALTIONSHIP and that's where the problem lies!
everyone has a standard of how they will love, what ruins it for most is we place conditions within our standards.
heres an example of a conditon that everyone will agree they must have in an realtion ship yet we place a certain standard upon this condition!

Infidelity
it is a violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of an intimate relationship, which constitutes a significant breach of faith or a betrayal of core shared values with which the integrity of the relationship is defined. In common use, it describes an act of unfaithfulness to one’s husband, wife, or lover, whether sexual or NON-sexual in nature. this was one of your points Kevin Jones!

cheating doesn't always fall into the sexual category. it could be something as simple as not letting your spouse know you have a hidden bank account. how would knowing this affect your realationship? we always focus on the sexual side of infidelity. we must remove the conditions and follow the standard!
its our duty to maintain our identity as faithful and true even when the chips are stacked against us because everything we go through in life is a lesson we are to learn whether good or bad but these things should never make us turn our backs on LOVE, it ALWAYS WINS!
one last thought.
the life we live, and how we are in our realtionship with GOD is a reflection of our relationship with your spouse/friend,
most of us never conceive it should be the opposite!
the life we live, and how we are in our realtionship with our spouse/friend is a reflection of our relationship with GOD.
i pray this helps someone!

"PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT (OR ATLEAST AS CLOSE TO PERFECT AS WE CAN COULD EVER GET!)"

CORNELIUS B.

Comment by Pashen on March 3, 2010 at 8:58pm

Love should never be defined by someone's ruinous relationship. When two people dissolve a relationship, it's not because love has failed them, it is due to selfishness, something that love isn't. From a scriptural standpoint at 1 Corinthians chapter 13:4-8 Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury, It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
To break it down, most of the times when imperfect people are in a relationship they forget that it takes so much work to make it work and even more so in a marriage. If most of what are in these few scriptures are practiced even the part where it says "love is long suffering and kind, the results would be much better. Imagine two people trying extremely hard to be kind to one another all the time, or better yet treating one another the way they want to be treated, what a difference it would make. I don't know too many people that want to be treated badly.
My advice is to treat the one you love exactly the way you want to be treated and always use tact. Once a person has been forgiven for a wrong doing, (like dirt being removed from a garment after being wash), it should be viewed as being washed cleaned. Give it a fresh start, if that person has been sincerely forgiven. Remember, love never fails.