THANKS MOM BUT NO THANKS

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Permalink Reply by Marie Chanté Flowers on April 28, 2010 at 8:02pm

Fear. Resentment. Doubt. Shame. I read the question yesterday and with all that is going on in my life, I didn't have time to respond, however knew I would come back and my answer would not change. I can and will elaborate on this (my answer), perhaps in a new post on my page. However, for now...these are things, to my children I will not give.

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Permalink Reply by K Jones on April 29, 2010 at 9:45am

Wow, that is a tough question.

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Permalink Reply by Karima Simmons on April 29, 2010 at 11:46am

LOL! Thanks Aja!

I'd have to say EVERYTHING about sex/puberty! Nothing about sex is in a damned hallmark card but she always tried to make it seem like it and I think that's why I was frisky! "Karima, your body is a temple..." Yeah? Well it feels like the dang Rebel Yell at Kings Dominion every time i stand next to Alvin (yes, his name was Alvin. Cute as hell with da chipped tooth!)! Temple Schemple! I need to figure out how to get his attention! LMAO!

Another thing she does that I can't stand is give and give and give. She never takes time for herself because she is always taking care of EVERYONE else. I'm almost 32 and I still have to tell her to go sit down somewhere. I want to nurture my family and give and give and give but there's gotta be a spa day or two somewhere along the way. Or at least a new pair of cute shoes!

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Permalink Reply by J. Rizzle on April 30, 2010 at 6:31am

I will not set them up by tellin' them to go get me a switch off the bush, knowing well they are about to get it, lol...what a set up !!! Then she told me, naw that's too short..u gotta get a longer one. That was just last week, lol...sike. But thruthfully it was a set up back then. Enjoy your day to the fullest !!! :-)

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Permalink Reply by poeticmusic on July 3, 2010 at 12:14pm

I'm 17. I will never take too long to give my children the knowledge they need. Some things I've asked about sex and my body at the age of 14 and never got the answer from a person. Half of all I know have come from books(urban erotica,books about sex for Black teens,the vagina monologues)and the internet. I hated my body until I actually saw myself in the mirror on June 25, 2010.(so sad) Also, I will never let my children grow up around only one successful Black marriage. Mine or not, my children have to know that love exists within our people. I won't watch my daughter like a hawk around boys, because she will already have that knowledge instilled in her.And my son will know all he needs to know and then some from his father.And she won't be at all afraid to talk to me about sex or anything,because I will always be real with her and never sugar coat it.(My son too if he needs a woman't point of view)There's so much about life that I've been held back from knowing,doing and learning.My child will never have to struggle with herself the way that I am.I will give my children love and a beautiful life and show them that they deserve the universe and more

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Permalink Reply by Rogenia Neal on January 3, 2011 at 5:28pm

FROM THE DATE SHOWN THIS BLOG WAS POSTED I GUESS I'[M COMMENTING KINDA LATE BUT HERE IS MY COMMENT I WOULD NOT PASS ON BEING JUDGMENTAL OR HYPERCRITICAL I LOVE MY MOTHER TO DEATH IF SHE WAS WALKING DOWN THE STREET AND A LOOSE BRICK FELL AND HIT HER I'D TEAR THE BLDG. DOWN FOR REAL FOR REAL BUT SHE HAS HER FAULTS ANS THAT'S SOMETHING I WOULD NOT PASS ON TO CHILDREN OR ANYONE FOR THAT MATTER !!!!!!!  AND FOR THE RECORD I DID NOT INHERIT THOSE TRAITS FROM HER !!!!!!!!!!!

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